Hello there... It's been 2 years and I've learned a lot. Today, I'm going to share something I've learnt about time.
As I grew older and my responsibilities increased in number and variety, I found myself falling into the illusion of busyness I thought I had less "free" time to do the things that really mattered to me; following my passion, personal development and such.
This led me to a place where I was constantly stressed, constantly in motion with little or no time to do what I felt were the things that mattered most to me. I began to feel more burned out, less happy and content. At first it was a gradual, creeping feeling but as the months went by, those feelings began to leak through into my personal, work and family life.
change was necessary
Something had to change, I was constantly tired, annoyed and dissatisfied at how little I was achieving in my personal goals. So I decided to do some research to find the problem.
Starting with "busy"
As with any solution, I had to understand the problem.. the real problem; I was constantly "too busy" or more accurately, I thought I was too busy. As cliche as this might sound, I had to go back to the basics. Why was I always feeling pressed for time? after a bit of introspection, I discovered two things;
- I was actually a lot less busy than I thought I was.
- I was consuming far more than I was creating.
Let's start with the first reason. A lot of times, a busy-ness problem is usually a priority problem, yes I know... another cliche however, this was a problem that snuck up on me. I previously prided myself on been "aggressively efficient" about managing my time but somehow, I fell into the trap of not putting things in the right priority order.
When I realized this, I did a lot of work putting things back in order; relationships, friendships, work and lastly entertainment While I won't bore you with the exact specifics (that's a story for another day) I was able to arrive at a place where it was much clearer to say no to things that weren't truly important but seem so. More importantly I felt less pressure as I was certain I was always getting the important things done daily.
"Create and consume, consume & create"
Now, on to the second and perhaps the most important point; I was consuming more.. a lot more than I was creating this led to me feel unfulfilled and thus amplified the pressure of busyness I felt. Consider this; It's 2016 and the amount of information on the internet is staggering. Over 500 million tweets posted daily, 400 Million hours of video content uploaded to Youtube daily. Lest I bore you with more numbers, those are just 2 out of over a billion websites on the internet, not taking into consideration physical books, videos or discussions with others. It's a wonderful time in man's history where we have almost anything we want at out fingertips and I was consuming way too much of it without letting any of it back out.
We were made to create and consume, consume and create. I found myself in a position where I wasn't writing much. I read a lot, watched a lot of videos, attended a good number of conferences, webinars and consumed a fair amount of entertainment (Perhaps a tad more than "fair amount")
That sounds normal doesn't it? perhaps even good. Reading, learning from and interacting with knowledgeable people. However, I wasn't letting any of it out. I stopped writing, teaching or expressing my creativity. This led to me always feeling overloaded. There's a certain "fulfilment" that comes from creating the things you were made to create. A Singer's song. An artist's painting. An academic's book.
This is perhaps one of the most telling signs of busy, constantly-under-pressure people. They consume a lot, have a lot of knowledge and skills but very little creations of their own. I personally believe every man has the potential to create something and contribute in some way in whatever field they desire.
No matter how you feel starting out, just create. Remember it's not about the fame or money. Do you have a passion? Have you noticed a problem around you that you could solve with your knowledge? The I implore you. No matter how busy you feel, remember the busiest, most impactful people on the planet usually find a way to create as much as they consume. Start creating today and have fun doing it!
See you real soon! Josh.